In Aotearoa, parents who conceive via a surrogate must formally adopt a baby who was always intended to be theirs. Now, a member’s bill looks set to change a time-consuming, expensive and exhausting process. It’s about time, writes Hannah Gibson.
At its essence, surrogacy is about people working together with others, centrally the surrogate, to fulfil their dream of having a family. For three years as a part of my anthropological research, I immersed myself in the complex world of surrogacy in Aotearoa, and found that the existing laws around adoption and surrogacy were one of the most loathed and archaic parts of the journey for new parents and surrogates alike.
When Doris, a 30-year-old civil servant suffered series of successive pregnancy failures, she and her spouse were encouraged to seek specialized pregnancy care service.
Before then, the couple had tried to conceive for more than six years going from one doctor to another until a gynaecologist diagnosed Doris with incompetent (blocked) fallopian tubes and referred her to a fertility specialist.
Motherhood is a phenomenon that many people tend to take for granted. While nothing can compare to the joy of becoming a mother to a child, not everyone is lucky to experience this feeling in their lifetime.
This is where alternative methods like surrogacy come into play, though it’s debatable whether or not they should be opted for in the first place.
However, when Caitlyn C from Florida became a surrogate to help people who couldn’t have children, she was insulted and called a “baby seller” for choosing it as a way of life. Talking about the vile comments she often receives, she added:
Common causes of anxiety for intended parents at the beginning of their family building journey via surrogacy centers around finding the right surrogate match. When it’s time for the all important first “match meeting” there are some tried and true tips that help intended parents.
One of the most common causes of anxiety for intended parents at the beginning of their family building journey via surrogacy centers around the issue of finding the right surrogate match. Although there are universal criteria that all surrogates must pass in order to even be considered a suitable carrier, there are additional unique characteristics of all individuals that will make a certain match better or worse suited for you. When it’s time for the all important first “match meeting” there are some tried and true tips that help intended parents determine if it’s the right match, while at the same time setting the stage for an emotionally healthy, respectful journey ahead.
AKRON, Ohio — When identical triplets Parker, Robin and Sylvie O’Neill are old enough to understand the full story of their journey to birth, they will learn about a story of serendipity, love and selflessness.
The 1-month-old girls are the daughters of husbands Kevin O’Neill and Eric Portenga of Ann Arbor, Michigan.
Their surrogate was Maureen Farris of West Akron, Ohio.
“We love these girls’ birth story, and I hope someday we can sit around the table and share it with them and tell them and they’ll love it as well and be proud of it as we are,” Farris said.
The girls were born Sept. 9 by cesarean section at Cleveland Clinic Akron General and taken directly to the neonatal intensive care unit at Akron General. They spent 18 days in the NICU.
In her new book, actress Gabrielle Union became the latest celebrity to discuss her decision to become a parent via surrogacy. She joins the ranks of household names such as Neil Patrick Harris, Nicole Kidman, Kim Kardashian, all of whom have hired a surrogate to give birth to their future child.
The publicity Union generated about surrogacy reignited ethical questions about this controversial form of assisted reproduction that range from whether women should be able to sell their reproductive abilities to what it means to be a parent.
There is global disagreement about the ethics of surrogacy. Several countries have banned it, while others have limited its scope. In the United States, laws permitting surrogacy vary by state.
GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (WOOD) — Rachael Lang grew up around lots of cousins, and she loved it.
“That’s what I wanted for my kids, to be close in age to their cousins,” said Lang from her living room in Grand Rapids
“Our niece and nephew are going to be five this year. So, every time I talked to my sister-in-law about that, I would just cry because I would count how many years apart our kids would be, and that was really hard for me to think about,” she said.
Lang had planned to have children of her own by now.
In the coronavirus pandemic, we have seen numerous cases of Intended Parents sadly separated from their children born via surrogacy, because of travel and quarantine restrictions, in some cases for many weeks and months.
Restrictions on entry and exit for non-nationals, alongside significant backlogs in immigration and passport processing, have all contributed.
For many there is no easy answer, and it is a waiting game until reunions become possible.
Hopefully, as global restrictions ease, these instances will reduce, but the unexpected impact of Covid-19 shows the importance of planning ahead as much as possible.
Kristen Welker feared not having maternal instincts before her baby was born via a surrogate. But with a bit of encouragement from her OB-GYN on a way in which to feel connected from the moment the baby girl was born, those fears washed away and the NBC news correspondent felt nothing but a bond with her new baby.
On Monday, Welker shared her birth story with Hoda Kotb on SiriusXM’s The Hoda Show, according to Today. And like many mothers who use a surrogate or adopt, the doubt was there that she would not have the maternal instinct and feel that connection with her baby girl.
A woman who had 14 failed IVF has finally become a mother after one sister donated an egg and the other offered to be her surrogate.
Sam Bryant, 44, from Melbourne, was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2003 and went through six months of chemotherapy before thankfully going into remission.
However, despite medics preserving her uterus Sam went onto have 14 failed IVF attempts costing $100,000.
In a desperate attempt to have a child, midwife and primary school teacher Sam and her husband Ben, 45, travelled to a fertility clinic in Spain and accepted friends’ offers to donate their eggs but every effort failed.
When a couple starts thinking about having a child, they set themselves on the path for new and exciting times. They always hope for great times and young families living a happy life. However, it is not always rosy. Not all of us have the same luck when it comes to conceiving.
You can easily assume that having a child is an easy feat, far from that. You may not realize this until you decide that it is time for you to add a new member to your family. One negative pregnancy test after another, and you start asking questions. You may question your ability to conceive or even challenge your partner’s fertility.
Anne Else looks at the Law Commission’s proposals for new surrogacy law, and the key legal issue: how the intending parents become the legal parents
Agreeing to be a birth mother in a surrogacy arrangement is a precious gift to people wanting a child. But if it’s poorly regulated, it can lead to women being seen as just useful wombs.
No one knows exactly how many surrogacy arrangements have been made or how many children have been born this way to New Zealanders since the Human Assisted Reproductive Technology (HART) Act was passed in 2004, because no comprehensive records are kept. But surrogacy makes up less than 1 percent of fertility clinic treatment cycles here. There’s no guarantee of a live birth.
If you haven’t heard of surrogacy before or if you don’t know of anyone personally who has gone through a surrogacy journey—either as a surrogate mother or as a parent—then the logistics of it all can be confusing. While it’s not exactly the “traditional” way that most couples get pregnant, it is becoming less and less taboo.
Look atKim Kardashian and Kanye West,Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman, Ellen Pompeo and Chris Ivery, Elton John and David Furnish—high-profile celebrities who, at one point or another, all turned to surrogacy as a way to expand their families.
“This is an incredible thing to do with your life, to give the gift of carrying someone’s child,” Grey’s Anatomy star Pompeo said of her personal experience with surrogacy. “I am forever grateful and feel very blessed and grateful to her—she who will remain anonymous. I was there with her when they inseminated her, and we held hands. I looked into the microscope and I saw the embryo.”
This week is an important time for surrogacy as it marks ‘National Surrogacy Week’ and Anne-Marie Hamer at Spencer West LLP; Member of IDR focuses on how the area of Surrogacy law is there to shape the future, and what ‘the future holds for surrogacy around the world’.
The future of family law will most certainly see changes in the coming years, to bring it in line with the various changes in society and around the world, but to also ensure that it recognises the needs of people in the 21st century. Within the ambit of family law is the area of Surrogacy and Fertility Law, and this is a specialist area which is recognised around the world, to assist families/couples and intended single parents fulfil their dream of having a family.