In the summer of 2018, I became a mom for the first time — and, like most new moms, I had so many questions. But besides the best car seat and stroller combo to choose for my daughter, I found myself having deep philosophical thoughts about how to raise her.
I had already relinquished the control I anticipated having when I decided to let her be carried by a surrogate. If it were up to me, I would have been the mom who ate nothing but organic food, exercised daily (but not too intensely), and played Bach through headphones attached to my baby belly, but that’s not how things played out. And while I trusted my surrogate was doing well by my daughter, I didn’t know exactly what that meant. As the pregnancy developed, I realized I had to work at letting go of that control since it was simply not an option.