Same Sex, Surrogacy

Unsung Heroes: Surrogate Mothers to Same-Sex Couples

Source Advocate

Let’s give a nod to the women who simultaneously help queer people start families and move the needle on tolerance.

I loved my small-town upbringing, but even in that somewhat sheltered environment I always had a curiosity about other places, other people, and other experiences. Now as a gay fertility doctor often working with LGBT people to build their families, it’s rewarding to see the effect this LGBT family-building is having on changing the perspective about our community in small towns across the country.

Much of that change comes from an unlikely place.

What I have learned in my work is that everyone involved in gay family-building becomes an ambassador for change. The gay parents, their family, and their child all open hearts and minds simply by living their lives.

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Same Sex, Surrogacy

The BBC is the cheerleader for same-sex surrogacy

Source Conservative Woman

Olympic diver Tom Daley and his ‘husband’ were adorned with sashes bearing the slogan ‘Daddy to be’ as they ‘celebrated the imminent arrival of their son with a baby shower’. Later Daley told the Andrew Marr Show: ‘The laws in the UK are different to the US. If a surrogate carries a baby, UK law recognises the surrogate and her partner as the parents.’ At present, the ‘commissioning couple’ has to apply for a parental order, but Daley was not asked how he would change the law. BBC Radio 5 Live also devoted a full hour to surrogacy without addressing the fact that these children are deprived of their biological mothers or fathers.

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Parental rights, Same Sex, Surrogacy

Gay people using a surrogate have to put time and effort into planning parenthood

Source DevonLive

I wish people who disapprove of the decision by Plymouth diver Tom Daley and his partner Dustin Lance Black to have a baby by surrogacy, would just shut up.

The most common criticism, apart from plain old prejudice, is that the baby will suffer from not having a mother.

Unlike some heterosexual couples who accidentally have babies, or decide on a whim, same-sex couples are almost certainly going to discuss and plan their children at length

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Malta, Same Sex, Surrogacy, Surrogacy Law

Pro-life group tears into proposed changes to IVF law

Source Malta Today
The Life Network Foundation says new law will create ethical and legal problems for children born from in-vitro fertilisation

A pro-life group has raised concerns over proposed changes to the Embryo Protection Act, which it says gives short shrift to the legal and ethical issues involved.

Life Network Foundation chairperson, Miriam Sciberras, was critical of changes that will change the definition of prospective parents, the introduction of anonymous gamete donation and embryo freezing.

Sciberras also criticised the proposal to start a consultation process on altruistic surrogacy. She said surrogacy turned women into objects and ignored the importance of the bond that develops during pregnancy between the mother and the child.

The wider definition of parents would allow, among others, single women to make use of in-vitro fertilisation treatment. The changes also propose the introduction of anonymous sperm and egg donation.

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Parental rights, Same Sex

Guess This Week’s Craziest State In Assisted Reproductive Technology Law: Mississippi Or Arizona?

Source Above The Law

Did you guess Mississippi? Wrong. Your assumptions about the Magnolia State notwithstanding, last week, the Mississippi Supreme Court issued a strong, well-reasoned opinion that reversed a lower court decision that would have created trouble for hopeful parents in Mississippi. The lower court had ruled that an anonymous sperm donor was in fact the legal parent of a child, even though that would have meant displacing one of the women (of a same-sex female couple) who had raised him. Yay, Mississippi! A victory for both families and LGBT individuals.

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Gay Parenting, Same Sex, Surrogacy, Surrogate Mother

UK – ‘I wanted to give people the joy I have with my kids’: Selfless mother, 29, who was a surrogate for a same-sex couple, donates eggs to help childless people to become parents

Source Daily Mail

A 29-year-old mother has spoken candidly about her gracious decision to help couples struggling to conceive by donating her eggs.

Cassie Lake, from Tinonee on the Mid North Coast of NSW, wanted to share the joys of parenthood after having a family of her own.

And so she started helping childless families by donating her eggs, and eventually, she went on to become a surrogate for a same-sex couple.
The idea to donate her eggs sprung into mind after she tragically suffered a miscarriage with her fourth baby at 10 weeks pregnant in 2015.

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Same Sex, Sperm Donor Rights

Mississippi court overturns decision recognizing sperm donor in lesbian child-custody case

Source Think Progress

The Mississippi Supreme Court has recognized the parental rights of both moms in a separated lesbian couple. While several other states have resolved similar issues raised by marriages that were not originally recognized, the Mississippi case instead reflected a concern about whether an anonymous sperm donor should be recognized as a parent.

Chris Strickland and Kimberly Jayroe Strickland Day married in 2009 in Massachusetts, and in 2011, Day gave birth to their son, Z.S., in Mississippi. Because their marriage was not recognized at the time, Strickland was not listed on her son’s birth certificate. The couple separated in 2013, but only formally divorced in 2016, after the U.S. Supreme Court had ruled in favor of marriage equality nationwide.

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egg donor children, Same Sex, Sperm Donor Children, surrogate children

How To Answer The Question ‘Mum, Mama…. Where Did I Come From?’

Source QNews Magazine

“Won’t someone think of the children?” cried the far right during the recent plebiscite, where the nation was invited to vote on the validity of our families.
One of the biggest cannons aimed against marriage equality was the idea that our relationships — and conception! — couldn’t be discussed with children.

I can’t speak for the rest of my allies in the LGBTIQ community, but I have been thinking of the children for a long time. Not only have I spent my career in the classroom, educating children, I have longed for a family of my own since I can remember.

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Gay Parenting, Gestational surrogacy, Same Sex, Surrogacy, Surrogate Parents

These two gay papas are showing why gay surrogacy is beautiful

Source GAY STAR NEWS

Meet Papas Manuel from Spain and Bud from New Jersey. Together they run the Two Gay Papas Instagram posting the most adorable family pictures with four-year-old Álvaro and two-year-old Carmen

With over 50K followers, we are not the only the only ones loving the adorable pictures they post.

Living in Spain where same-sex marriage has been legal since 2005, and the two dads have the kids through surrogacy.

The Two Gay Papas story starts as a blog in 2012 to chronicle their surrogacy journey. Now they use Instagram create positive stories about LGBT families with their day to day life.

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Gay Parenting, intended parents, Law, Parental rights, Same Sex, Surrogacy, Surrogacy Law, Surrogate Mother

Washington’s Uniform Parentage Act Signed Into Law

Source: The Seattle Lesbian

Law Bolsters Legal Protections for LGBTQ and Non-Biological Parents, Repeals Ban on Compensated Surrogacy, and Allows Regulated Surrogacy Agreements

Washington Governor Jay Inslee has signed into law Senate Bill 6037, which substantially updates and improves Washington’s version of the Uniform Parentage Act (UPA).

The UPA is the law that addresses how people are legally recognized as parents. This update strengthens protections for LGBTQ parents and non-biological parents, while maintaining the protections for rape survivors created by the 2017 Rape Survivor Safety Act.

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Gay Parenting, intended parents, Same Sex, surrogate children, Surrogate Mother

Unregulated Surrogacy Poses Risks for LGBT Couples, Warns Global Consultant

Source: Vision PRWeb

Sensible Surrogacy Founder, Bill Houghton, with his surrogacy family

Same-sex couples who are considering gay surrogacy to conceive their families should examine the serious risks of unregulated programs overseas, said Bill Houghton, founder of the Sensible Surrogacy Guide.

As same-sex couples increasingly look for options to conceive children, many are choosing programs in countries without basic protections, according to Bill Houghton, founder of the Sensible Surrogacy Guide. Some destinations popular with gay couples have no specific legislation on surrogacy. This opens the door to unregulated programs with serious risks.

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Same Sex, Sperm Donor, UK

How it feels to … be a sperm donor baby and have three mothers

Source The Sunday Times

Raised by three lesbian parents, Jordan Waller had just a brief description of his biological father. Despite being bullied as a child, the actor says his upbringing has been a blessing

Supporting roles: Waller, 25, says his unconventional family has informed his acting career

I know about my dad is that he is a 6ft-tall doctor with brown hair and green eyes. My parents chose him from a list at a sperm bank in Bristol, and from the moment I was old enough to understand, they were open with me that I was born via artificial sperm donor insemination to my biological mum, Miranda.

The donor was chosen to match mum’s partner, Dawn, in terms of her physical characteristics, so on paper I should have been tall and dark, but I turned out to be blond and blue-eyed. My mum likes to joke that they must have mixed up the sperm

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Donor Eggs, Donor Embryos, Egg Donation, Egg Donor, Embryo, Gay Parenting, Gestational surrogacy, Same Sex, Surrogacy, Surrogate Mother

3 Questions Queer People Should Ask Before Growing Our Families

Source: Forbes

Traditional methods aren’t typically available for queer people to grow their families, and growing families non-traditionally can be expensive. What are the options and costs for queer couples and individuals to consider when family planning?

3 Questions Queer People Should Ask Before Growing Our Families – photo by Shutterstock

The cost to raise a child from birth to 18 years old, not including family planning or college, is estimated by the USDA to be about $245,340. For many LGBT families, this is the minimum cost. This is why lack of financial planning when family planning could put queer families at financial risk.

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Cancer, Infertility, Same Sex, Sperm Donation, Sperm Donor

Cancer patient outraged to discover he can only donate sperm to female partner (Video)

Source: Stuff NZ

A gay man suffering severe pain from cancer was mortified to discover he was only able to donate sperm to a female partner.

Logan Morton, 22, received the shock diagnosis he had acute myeloid leukemia in April last year, and after being warned the treatment could make him infertile, arranged to store healthy sperm through Fertility Associates.

Severely debilitated from the cancer, Morton asked a nurse to fill out the paperwork, and noticed afterwards that he was only given the option of donating his sperm to a female partner.

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Egg Donor, Embryo, Gay Parenting, Same Sex, Surrogacy

Gay couples find path to parenthood at Greenwich Hospital

Source: Greenwich Time

Douglas Graneto (left) and Wear Culvahouse (right) with their 8-year-old daughter Katie (middle).

GREENWICH — When Wear Culvahouse, a Greenwich obstetrician-gynecologist, delivered a baby for the first male same-sex parents at Greenwich Hospital in 2004, he saw doors opening for himself as well.

The team assembled to to help the male couple included personnel from labor and delivery, the nursery and administration. They set up two rooms at Greenwich Hospital: One for the new fathers to learn how to bathe, feed and change their baby, and one for their surrogate to recover.

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Same Sex, Surrogacy, Surrogate Mother

A dad’s discovery: Raising a child is thankless work

Source: The Globe and Mail

A year ago, after their surrogate’s labour through the night, Globe business reporter Tim Kiladze, left, and his husband, Matt, finally got to meet their daughter Eva. Tim took 10 months of parental leave to care for the baby.

A year ago, after their surrogate’s labour through the night, Globe business reporter Tim Kiladze, left, and his husband, Matt, finally got to meet their daughter Eva. Tim took 10 months of parental leave to care for the baby .

I tried my very best to be calm, convincing myself that everything before this, all the agony and the ecstasy in my life, had been preparation for this moment.

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Ireland, Law, Same Sex

Ireland – Woman speaks of frustration as wife cannot be named on son’s birth cert

Source: RTE

A woman has spoken of her frustration at not being allowed to name her wife as a co-parent on their son’s birth certificate, despite legislation being in place for two years to enable same-sex parents to be named on such documents.

Sarah Stone-McDevitt told RTÉ’s Today with Sean O’Rourke that her three month-old child Lochlann’s rights have been infringed by the fact that she could only put her name on the birth certificate and not her wife Ger’s name too.

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Employee Benefits, Fertility Benefits, Same Sex, Surrogacy

Fertility benefits becoming hot retention tool for employers

Source:  EBN

A roughly 10% spike in employer-offered fertility benefits is expected in the next two years as more companies evaluate and prioritize family-friendly benefits in an effort to attract and retain top talent.

New research out by Willis Towers Watson reveals the percentage of employers offering fertility benefits to employees is expected to grow from 55% in 2017 to 66% by 2019. And, of employers already offering financial assistance, 81% said the benefits would apply to same-sex couples next year, compared with 65% in 2017.

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Same Sex, Surrogacy, Surrogacy Law

Tribune Editorial: The Legislature should leave the surrogacy law alone

Source:  The Salt Lake Tribune

Surprisingly, maddeningly, the Utah Legislature is still fighting gay marriage.

At least one legislator is. Sen. Lyle Hillyard introduced a bill Wednesday to repeal a 2005 law that allowed Utah couples to have children through surrogacy. Hillyard was the sponsor of the 2005 law.

Dozens of Utahns shared their surrogacy stories and asked a legislative committee to block the bill. Lisa Candie Barlow told the committee she is currently 14 weeks pregnant as a surrogate for her brother and her brother’s wife.

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Donor Eggs, Donor Embryos, Egg Donation, Egg Donor, Gay Parenting, New Zealand, Same Sex, Surrogacy

New Zealand – Gay couple find Māori egg donor through newspaper ad – now they need a surrogate

Source: Stuff NZ

Nelson and Baden Marino-Hall have been together more than five years and run a successful home renovation company in Queensland called The Reno Lads.

A married same-sex couple who advertised in The Dominion Post for a Māori egg donor have found one – and are now searching for a surrogate.

About 60 Māori women offered to help after Baden and Nelson Marino-Hall, who live in Toowoomba, Queensland, sought a donor in July last year.

They settled on one, who lives in Australia, and now have six donated embryos on ice.

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