Long before we hit the “your baby can now hear” stage in pregnancy, my husband Dan began having nightly chats with my belly, listing the reasons he was excited to meet our daughter or telling her about her cool mom. It was their way of bonding given that Dan couldn’t do it the same way that I could — you know, the whole me-carrying-a-baby-in-my-womb part. It made me wonder about parents who go about having children in less traditional ways, like through surrogacy. Were there tips for how to bond with your baby if they’re born via surrogacy? Surely, I thought, you can establish a special connection in ways that extend beyond the act of physically carrying a child.