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She is pregnant, and doctors confirm she is
carrying a healthy baby girl.
But when the infant is born in January, Kim
Klein will not give her a name nor will she take
her home. Instead, the small bundle of life will
be a gift of love to the baby's parents, a
childless couple in the Chicago area.
Kim is a gestational surrogate. The baby she
carries was conceived using in vitro
fertilization and belongs to the biological
parents, who could not have children naturally.
"I
know how special our kids are to us, and I can't
imagine life without them," Kim, 35, said of the
three children she and husband Todd, 39, are
raising in their Hillsboro home.
"We can help somebody to do that-to have a child
when they can't have one and have tried for 15
years. I think that's the main reason I went
into it."
Until about 20 years ago, couples unable to have
children had only two basic alternatives-adopt
or remain childless. Today, they have a third
choice due to advances in reproductive
technology. Artificial insemination allows for
the option of a surrogate carrier.
The two types of surrogacy are genetic and
gestational. A genetic surrogate is the
biological mother-her eggs are inseminated with
the intended father's sperm.
A
gestational surrogate, such as Kim, has no
genetic link to the child she carries. Both the
egg and sperm of the intended parents are
joined. The embryo(s) are placed into the
surrogate, who will carry and deliver the child.
The Kleins own Lucky Ducks Preschool with Kim's
mother, Susan Judd. Todd works as a system's
analyst for a computer firm in Wichita. Daughter
Madison is 7, son Dakota is 4, and daughter
Danni-Quinn is 2.
Married for 12 years, the Kleins decided their
family was complete, and Todd had a vasectomy
after their last child was born.
In
years past, their hearts went out to others who
were having difficulty having their own
children.
"We had some friends who went through a lot of
fertility problems," Kim said. "We were kind of
with them through that whole thing."
Before Madison was born, the Kleins discussed
the option of gestational surrogacy with the
couple, who declined after successfully adopting
a child.
"So I'd been thinking about (surrogacy) a lot
and decided to look on the Internet," Kim said
about a recent renewed interest in the subject.
Through her research, she discovered the Center
for Surrogate Parenting, an agency in California
designed to bring together intended parents and
women willing to become surrogates.
One night, she talked to Todd about her desire
to become a surrogate.
"She told me that ever since the time she'd been
working with our friends, she'd had it in the
back of her mind," Todd said. "She's always said
she enjoys being pregnant."
Todd agreed and supported Kim for two reasons.
"It's something she really wants to do," he
said. "And also, because we can give a couple
who doesn't have a chance to have a baby-the
chance. To me, that's good enough reason to make
it OK for me. We talked a lot about it, and we
prayed a lot about it."
They also visited with the pastor of their
church to determine what they were about to
undertake as a family was not against church
laws.
"He assured us it was within the doctrine of our
church, and he thought it was a pretty neat
thing we were doing," Todd said.
Similar to all reputable agencies, the
California company screens surrogates to
determine if they are healthy, have a sound
psychological profile and have successfully
delivered their own biological children.
"It was about a year-long process before we met
the people that we're surrogates for," Kim said.
"We did personality tests, they interviewed me,
they interviewed Todd. They feel the husband is
definitely a big part of this, and he needs to
be on board. He had to do medical tests, and I
had to do medical tests."
Last August, Kim began attending regional
support-group sessions in Minneapolis. Todd went
with her when it was time to meet their
counselor.
The Kleins received profiles of prospective
couples and narrowed their field of choices. The
prospective couples in turn were given choices
to be matched.
Their final choice was made in October last
year. In November, they went back to Minneapolis
to meet with the intended parents and the
counselor.
The husband is a physician in his late 50s, and
the wife is in her late 40s.
"She's basically been staying at home trying to
get pregnant all these years," Kim said. "She's
had at least four miscarriages. She's in the 2
percent of the population that it's
unexplainable why she couldn't carry the baby."
"It's hard to imagine going through this so
long, but it's not uncommon."
Visiting together for an evening and again the
next morning, the two couples returned home and
made their decision to embark on the medical and
legal issues involved in the surrogacy process.
After all legal documents were signed, Kim began
a regiment of medications to prepare for
insemination, such as shots, pills, patches and
creams.
"I
had to trick my body to shut off my cycle, but
yet make it receptive to the embryos," Kim said.
Kim traveled to Chicago and was inseminated with
three embryos on April 27, perhaps a lucky date
because it was also Todd's birthday.
The intended couple had tried in vetro
fertilization in the past without success and
had only three frozen embryos left.
"They defrosted the embryos that morning when we
got there," Todd said.
The out-patient procedure, with the intended
mother present, took less than a minute and
after a period of rest, Kim flew home with Todd
by her side.
Although she was supposed to wait six weeks to
see if it was successful, Kim began taking
home-pregnancy tests at one week and later a
blood test. The procedure was successful. She
was pregnant.
Although inseminated with three embryos, Kim is
carrying only one child-a miracle baby.
"We were really excited because they say a lot
of times it doesn't always work the first time,"
Kim said.
On
Saturday, May 7, one day before Mother's Day,
the intended couple received a package from the
Kleins with a small gift and the results of the
pregnancy tests.
The couple called back after receiving the
package.
"They were excited but cautiously optimistic,"
Kim said. "They had had several miscarriages,
lots of times."
By
law, the Kleins are not receiving monetary
compensation for carrying the couple's child.
All procedures, medications, travel, hotel and
miscellaneous expenses were paid by the couple
until Kim became pregnant. Her insurance will
cover prenatal care and delivery scheduled in a
Wichita hospital.
The intended mother and Kim e-mail and talk to
each other weekly. The due date is Jan. 12, and
the mother plans to be in Wichita for the
delivery.
Laws vary in each state, but in Kansas the
intended couple must legally adopt their
daughter when she is born and Kim hands her over
to them to take home.
"That was a tricky thing for me," Kim said.
"People say, 'How can you give up your baby?'
But it's not my baby. If it was my egg, it would
be different. I couldn't do it."
The majority of family and friends have been
supportive.
"We really appreciate the support of our Sunday
school class," Todd said. "It's been meaningful
support. People have been there for us."
Kim agreed and said, "My main concern when we
first went into it was not what people would say
to me or Todd. It was mainly for Madison. She's
in school, and I hope nobody says anything bad.
But everybody's been positive that we've told so
far."
By
the first week in September, Kim was 21 weeks
along and knew the baby was healthy. But she may
have to face bed rest during the third trimester
of the pregnancy.
"The placenta is down by the cervix instead of
up on the top where it should be," Kim said. "It
could cause some problems later on down the
line. The main thing is, I'll probably have to
have a C-section."
In
January, the intended couple will have a room in
the hospital to be with the baby for about two
days before finally taking her home.
Will it be hard for the Kleins to give the baby
up?
"I
know it will be an emotional time," Kim said.
"It's not going to be easy, but I feel that it
will be a good emotion and touching-that you see
this family going home. I think it's something
you can feel proud that you were a part of." |